11 Kegel Sex Positions for Out-of-This-World Orgasms
Time to make Kegel exercises your main squeeze.
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Engaging your pelvic floor muscles (also called PC muscles) by doing Kegel exercises isn’t just something you do for non-sexy reasons like making sure you don’t pee in your pants or that your uterus doesn’t fall out of your body. (It’s called utero-vaginal prolapse—look it up!) Doing Kegels during sex can make everything feel so much better for you and a penis-having partner. (If your partner is wearing a dildo, they won’t get to feel your wonder squeeze, but they’ll probs be super happy for you, so go off.)
“A strong pelvic floor can make you more likely to achieve an orgasm through penetration. And even if you don’t (so very normal, btw), the more you train, the more blood will flow to your vagina, which can work wonders to all those nerves down there just waiting to be stimulated,” says Ruby Payne, dominatrix and sex expert at adult toy retailer UberKinky. Tighter Kegels can equal stronger, more intense orgasms, as well as the glory of controlling a (penis-having) partner’s pleasure with the sheer power of your magic vagina.
But you don’t just squeeze and hold until one of you finishes—you need some finesse. For maximum magic, tighten your PC muscles on outward thrusts and release on inward ones, says Terri Alexander, PhD, who’s led REIKI Kama Sutra workshops to help women and couples enhance their sexuality. “If your partner has a penis, then this should mimic the contractions your vagina makes when you orgasm, and it can feel pretty good for the both of you,” says Payne.
If you haven’t been doing your vag workouts, get inspired with these life-changing Kegel exercises, then try out these truly stellar Kegel sex positions to harness your pelvic superpowers on your unsuspecting mate.
The X Factor
This position already makes for a tighter squeeze, but add Kegels to it, and damn. The receiving partner lies flat and lifts their legs up, crosses them, and rests them on their partner’s chest while their partner penetrates. You can also try it with uncrossed legs, or by putting both your legs on one of your partner’s shoulders. “To add extra sensation, add clitoral stimulation with a vibrator and/or anal stimulation with anal beads or butt plugs,” says Alexander.
The Three-Legged Dog
Up for a little challenge/unnecessary danger in your life? Try a standing position where you lift one leg (like a dog about to pee, except you won’t pee because you’ve been doing Kegels), then wrap your leg around your partner’s hips. “Hold onto your partner’s shoulders or keep your back against a wall if you feel like you might fall over. The angle made by your raised leg will make your vagina feel tighter. Do some Kegels when they’re inside for things to get even tighter and warmer,” says Payne. (If you do indeed fall over, you are free to refrain from doing Kegels.)
The Romantic Heroine
Are you in need of some bosom-heaving, take-me-now, romance novel sex? We’ve gotchu. “In my upcoming novel, there's a scene where the main female character is tied up like a starfish against the bed,” says Liv Arnold, an erotic rom com writer. “In this scenario, being tied up means you have little control, but you can help with your partner’s (and your) orgasm through Kegels. Start with quick pulses and eventually hold for longer. When they’re on top of you and think they’re in complete control, control your pelvic muscles, clutching them tight and letting go over and over again.” Oh yes.
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The Banana Hammock
Have your partner slide a finger inside your vagina, curling it up so it's rubbing along the top wall of your vagina and rocking their hand, up and in, kind of like the rhythmic swing of a hammock. Tighten your PCs as they slide up and in, release as they slide a little out. Rub your clit at the same time so the sensations are partly in your control, partly your partner's—the combo of expected and unexpected is extra good.
The Pre-Game Warm Up
Before your next sex sesh, buy a Kegel toy or trainer (like Ben Wa balls!) and use it right before you're with a partner. This will get your blood flow going and amp your arousal. If you like the sensations, leave the toy inside you and squeeze around it while you mount your partner's face and (carefully) thrust against their mouth.
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The OMG So F-ing Tight
Get in doggie position, but press your legs tightly together between your partner's. Squeeze around their penis or strap-on on alternate strokes. To make things even tighter, slide a butt plug in your bum as well. (If you're more of a frontal kind of person, a clit vibrator is a great add-on too.)
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The Deep Dive
There’s no reason you can’t try Kegels during sex with your own damn self. They’ll make a regular ole dildo feel extra sexy, or you can go with a specialized toy like an egg vibrator that also stimulates your clit. Squeezing around something can give you deeper-feeling orgasms, especially if you keep squeezing through them.
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The Core-Play
In positions where your legs are spread super wide, enhance the P-in-V contact by harnessing the power of Kegel exercises. Get on top and squat over your partner. Then, squeeze your PC muscles rhythmically, like you’re pulsing around their penis. If they can still see while their eyes are rolled back in their head, their hands will be free to press a toy or rub a lube-y hand against your clit.
The Pulsing Lotus
If you have a partner with a penis, surprise! They can do Kegel exercises too, and they can do them while they're inside you. It’s not great for a hard, fuck-me-now type of deal, but it’s amazing during an intimate face-to-face position. Don’t move for a moment while they flex/pulse their penis deep inside you. In that moment, it’s just you two, and OMG, the throbbing. If you’re with the right person, it can feel pretty f*cking magical.
The Bing-Bong
A set of Kegel or Ben Wa balls inserted into the vagina during oral adds a feeling of fullness and a whole new level of pleasure. To build up anticipation, you or your partner can put them in ahead of time—they’ll make it hard to think of anything else. Or go even further and invest in a vibrating set that can be operated via remote.
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The Double Squeeze
For a super-tight feel and more stimulation where you need it, squeeze your legs together during missionary. The motion here is less an in-and-out and more a slow grind—tilt your pelvis down so your vulva is sliding along the top side of their shaft. As you move, squeeze your PC muscles in long, slow contractions—it’ll feel like you’re hugging their penis or strap-on.
Jill Hamilton is a contributor for Cosmopolitan.com and writes the blog In Bed With Married Women.
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