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The Boy Crisis: Why Our Boys Are Struggling and What We Can Do About It Hardcover – March 13, 2018
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It's a crisis of education. Worldwide, boys are 50 percent less likely than girls to meet basic proficiency in reading, math, and science.
It's a crisis of mental health. ADHD is on the rise. And as boys become young men, their suicide rates go from equal to girls to six times that of young women.
It's a crisis of fathering. Boys are growing up with less-involved fathers and are more likely to drop out of school, drink, do drugs, become delinquent, and end up in prison.
It's a crisis of purpose. Boys' old sense of purpose—being a warrior, a leader, or a sole breadwinner—are fading. Many bright boys are experiencing a "purpose void," feeling alienated, withdrawn, and addicted to immediate gratification.
So, what is The Boy Crisis? A comprehensive blueprint for what parents, teachers, and policymakers can do to help our sons become happier, healthier men, and fathers and leaders worthy of our respect.
- Print length368 pages
- LanguageEnglish
- PublisherBenBella Books
- Publication dateMarch 13, 2018
- Dimensions6.25 x 1.61 x 9.31 inches
- ISBN-101942952716
- ISBN-13978-1942952718
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—Suzanne Somers
“Drs. Farrell and Gray frighten and enlighten us in their brilliant analysis, insights, wisdom, and practical solutions to The Boy Crisis . . . essential reading for every parent, teacher, and policy-maker.”
—Philip Zimbardo, PhD, former president of the American Psychological Association and Stanford University professor
“It would be impossible to read this book and not become a better parent, teacher, or thought leader.”
—Marci Shimoff, #1 New York Times bestselling author
“What The Feminine Mystique did for girls and women, The Boy Crisis does for boys and men. An eloquently written, compelling tour de force, The Boy Crisis presents a long overdue vision of boys’ self-worth, sense of purpose, and idea of heroism that will leave our boys happier, healthier, and better prepared to sustain love.”
—Dr. Richard A. Warshak, author of Divorce Poison
“A must-read for anyone who cares about our boys, our schools, our culture, and the future of our country.”
—Helen Smith, PhD, author of Men on Strike
“Arresting, alarming, and impeccably researched, The Boy Crisis is a must-read for every parent, educator, and policymaker who cares about the future of boys and girls.”
—Michael G. Thompson, PhD, New York Times bestselling coauthor of Raising Cain
“The Boy Crisis is a groundbreaking and exhaustively researched book about one of the most vital and disastrous yet underreported topics in America.”
—Suzanne Venker, Fox News contributor and author of The War on Men
“Original, thoughtful, and filled with gems of practical wisdom to understand and support the future of boys.”
—Jack Canfield, coauthor of the #1 New York Times bestselling Chicken Soup for the Soul® series
“As an activist in the women’s movement, I’m proud of expanding life choices for our daughters. But no one did the same for our sons—until now. Dr. Warren Farrell shines his searchlight on the ‘boy problem with no name’ in this totally absorbing, astonishing, and masterful book. Best of all, he offers parents and educators straightforward solutions with a heart full of compassion.”
—Gail Sheehy, author of Passages and Understanding Men’s Passages
“The Boy Crisis is the most important book of the 21st century. . . . If you care about the very survival of humankind, you must read this book.”
—Jed Diamond, PhD, author of The Irritable Male Syndrome
“A must-read for anyone who cares about our boys, our schools, our culture, and the future of our country.”
—Helen Smith, PhD, author of Men on Strike
“The Boy Crisis is a groundbreaking and exhaustively researched book about one of the most vital and disastrous yet underreported topics in America by one of the most thoughtful writers of our time. As the wife of a dad-deprived man, and the mother of a dad-enriched son, I can personally vouch for its deep significance.”
—Suzanne Venker, Fox News contributor and author of The War on Men
"The Boy Crisis will deepen your awareness and help you guide your son through the many dilemmas and ordeals that attend the journey from boyhood to manhood. Profoundly helpful."
—Sam Keen, author of Fire in the Belly and Prodigal Father, Wayward Son
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“The Boy Crisis brilliantly explores the challenges facing our sons—and everyone. The sections on ADHD, the role of mothering and fathering, and developing boys’ health intelligence are priceless and life-changing.”
—Suzanne Somers
“Drs. Farrell and Gray frighten and enlighten us in their brilliant analysis, insights, wisdom, and practical solutions to The Boy Crisis . . . essential reading for every parent, teacher, and policy-maker.”
—Philip Zimbardo, PhD, former president of the American Psychological Association and Stanford University professor
“It would be impossible to read this book and not become a better parent, teacher, or thought leader.”
—Marci Shimoff, #1 New York Times bestselling author
“What The Feminine Mystique did for girls and women, The Boy Crisis does for boys and men. An eloquently written, compelling tour de force, The Boy Crisis presents a long overdue vision of boys’ self-worth, sense of purpose, and idea of heroism that will leave our boys happier, healthier, and better prepared to sustain love.”
—Dr. Richard A. Warshak, author of Divorce Poison
“A must-read for anyone who cares about our boys, our schools, our culture, and the future of our country.”
—Helen Smith, PhD, author of Men on Strike
“Arresting, alarming, and impeccably researched, The Boy Crisis is a must-read for every parent, educator, and policymaker who cares about the future of boys and girls.”
—Michael G. Thompson, PhD, New York Times bestselling coauthor of Raising Cain
“The Boy Crisis is a groundbreaking and exhaustively researched book about one of the most vital and disastrous yet underreported topics in America.”
—Suzanne Venker, Fox News contributor and author of The War on Men
“Original, thoughtful, and filled with gems of practical wisdom to understand and support the future of boys.”
—Jack Canfield, coauthor of the #1 New York Times bestselling Chicken Soup for the Soul® series
“As an activist in the women’s movement, I’m proud of expanding life choices for our daughters. But no one did the same for our sons—until now. Dr. Warren Farrell shines his searchlight on the ‘boy problem with no name’ in this totally absorbing, astonishing, and masterful book. Best of all, he offers parents and educators straightforward solutions with a heart full of compassion.”
—Gail Sheehy, author of Passages and Understanding Men’s Passages
“The Boy Crisis is the most important book of the 21st century. . . . If you care about the very survival of humankind, you must read this book.”
—Jed Diamond, PhD, author of The Irritable Male Syndrome
“A must-read for anyone who cares about our boys, our schools, our culture, and the future of our country.”
—Helen Smith, PhD, author of Men on Strike
“The Boy Crisis is a groundbreaking and exhaustively researched book about one of the most vital and disastrous yet underreported topics in America by one of the most thoughtful writers of our time. As the wife of a dad-deprived man, and the mother of a dad-enriched son, I can personally vouch for its deep significance.”
—Suzanne Venker, Fox News contributor and author of The War on Men
"The Boy Crisis will deepen your awareness and help you guide your son through the many dilemmas and ordeals that attend the journey from boyhood to manhood. Profoundly helpful."
—Sam Keen, author of Fire in the Belly and Prodigal Father, Wayward Son
About the Author
Dr. Farrell is currently the Chair of the Commission to Create a White House Council on Boys and Men. He is the only man in the U.S. to have been elected three times to the Board of the National Organization for Women (NOW) in New York City. He started more than 300 men and women's groups, including ones joined by men from John Lennon to John Gray. Dr. Farrell has appeared repeatedly on Oprah, TODAY, and Good Morning America, and been the subject of features on 20/20, in Forbes, The Wall Street Journal, People, Parade, and The New York Times.
Dr. John Gray is the author of Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus. USA Today listed Mars/Venus as number six among the most influential books of the last quarter century. In hardcover, it was the number one bestselling nonfiction book of the nineties. John Gray's books are translated into approximately 45 languages in more than 100 countries.
Dr. Gray's more recent books include Mars and Venus in the Bedroom, Why Mars and Venus Collide, and Work With Me (with Barbara Annis). John has appeared repeatedly on Oprah, as well as on The Dr. Oz Show, TODAY, CBS This Morning, Good Morning America, etc. He has been profiled in Time, Forbes, USA Today, TV Guide, and People. He was also the subject of a three-hour special hosted by Barbara Walters.
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- Publisher : BenBella Books (March 13, 2018)
- Language : English
- Hardcover : 368 pages
- ISBN-10 : 1942952716
- ISBN-13 : 978-1942952718
- Item Weight : 1.65 pounds
- Dimensions : 6.25 x 1.61 x 9.31 inches
- Best Sellers Rank: #292,363 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)
- #392 in Parenting Boys
- #438 in Parenting Teenagers (Books)
- #592 in General Gender Studies
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John Gray, Ph.D. is the #1 bestselling relationship author of all time. He is the author of over 20 books, including The New York Times #1 Best-Selling Relationship Book of All Time: MEN ARE FROM MARS, WOMEN ARE FROM VENUS. His books have sold over 50 million copies in 50 different languages around the world.
John is a leading internationally recognized expert in the fields of communication and relationships. His unique focus is assisting men and women in understanding, respecting and appreciating their differences. John's advice can be easily used to improve relationships at home and in the workplace.
For more than 35 years, John Gray has conducted public and private seminars for thousands of participants. John entertains and inspires audiences with practical communication techniques. John's mission is for men and women to understand, respect, appreciate and work together.
John Gray is a popular speaker on the national and international lecture circuit and often appears on television and radio programs to discuss his work. He has made guest appearances on such shows as Oprah, The Dr. Oz Show, Good Morning America, The Today Show, The CBS Morning Show, Live with Regis, Fox & Friends Weekend, Good Morning New York, Larry King Live, CNN and Company and many others. He has been profiled in major publications across the United States. John Gray lives with his wife and children in Northern California.
Visit www.MarsVenus.com
Dr. Warren Farrell began his research on gender issues in the ‘60s. His first book, The Liberated Man, was published in 1974. It was from the women’s perspective and the feminist perspective. By the ‘80s, he began noticing that men were feeling misrepresented, and his award-winning national best-seller, Why Men Are The Way They Are, was written to answer women’s questions about men in a way that rings true for men. The New York Post calls it "the most important book ever written about love, sex, and intimacy."
By the ‘90s, Dr. Farrell felt the misunderstandings about men had deepened and become dangerous to the survival of families and love. He confronted the misunderstandings head-on with the award-winning The Myth of Male Power, a book the The Library Journal ranked as “better than Robert Bly’s Iron John or any of Betty Freidan’s works.” (His books are published in over 50 countries in 15 languages.)
By the turn of the century Dr. Farrell wanted to provide the sexes with the tools to communicate-- in particular to hear personal criticism from a loved one, especially when given badly. That was the take-off point for Women Can’t Hear What Men Don’t Say, a selection of the Book-of-the-Month Club. By 2001 Dr. Farrell completed research he had been working on for 13 years on the conditions under which children of divorce are most likely to be raised successfully. That book, Father and Child Reunion, has renewed the commitment of many dads to be with their children, and its research has helped judges understand the importance of dads.
Dr. Farrell’s most recent research is published as Why Men Earn More: The Startling Truth Behind the Pay Gap -- and What Women Can Do About It. It documents the 25 differences between men and women’s work-life decisions. It was chosen by U.S. News and World Report as one of the top four “great career books to be read in 2006.”
Warren has appeared on over 1000 TV and radio shows, and been interviewed frequently by Oprah and Barbara, and by Larry King and Peter Jennings. He has been featured repeatedly on 20/20 and in The New York Times, in People and on Real People, in men's journals and The Wall Street Journal, and on the Today Show, the Tomorrow Show, and even To Tell The Truth.
Warren Farrell’s understanding of both sexes is symbolized by his being, on the one hand, on the boards of four national men’s organizations, and on the other hand, being the only man in the US to be elected three times to the Board of Directors of the National Organization for Women in New York City. Similarly, he has started over 600 men's and women's groups, and over 200,000 women and men have attended his workshops worldwide. He is the only person chosen to speak at both of former California Governor Wilson’s 1995 conferences – his Conference on Men and his Conference on Women.
President Johnson chose Dr. Farrell as one of the outstanding young educators in the United States. (The man's been around for awhile!) He has taught political science, psychology, women’s studies and sociology, and most recently taught at the School of Medicine at the University of California at San Diego. Dr. Farrell has been chosen by the International Biographic Centre of London as one of the World’s 2000 Outstanding Scholars of the 20th Century and, in quite a different take, chosen by the Financial Times as one of the worlds top 100 Thought Leaders. He has also been selected by the Center for World Spirituality as one of the world's spiritual leaders.
Dr. Farrell is in Who’s Who in America and Who’s Who in the World, but his best moments are at home. He has two daughters and lives with his wife in Mill Valley, California, and virtually at www.warrenfarrell.com.
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That said, I think that there is a deep contradiction in Farrell's viewpoint. On one hand he recognizes that the world has been built upon a failure to value men's lives (men are driven to war, to dangerous jobs, and to suicide-inducing stress), while on the other hand he wishes to eliminate these problems. His cause is commendable, for sure, but there's a disconnect here: if men aren't doing these difficult, deadly jobs, then who is? Feminists want nothing to do with them (they'd rather focus on equal representation as high paid doctors, lawyers and CEO's). So who lays the bricks? Who works the frigid oil rigs? Who lays down the roofing? If Farrell is successful, then men will largely stop taking these jobs, and society will pay a high price for it.
People often forget that our world isn't built on sunshine and roses, rather than deprivation, blood, sweat, and tears: we need people to suffer through -and die for- many of the jobs that are necessary to sustain civilization. I don't say that lightly. Humanist notions of the sanctity of human life are easily contradicted by our willingness to put an implicit price to the loss of lives that we don't care about. A better case might be made if one were to argue that men deserve to be compensated fairly for the dangerous jobs they work (rather than be driven to them by social drives and lack of opportunity). Better that society at large should pay the full price for lives lost, than that those men themselves should pay alone.
I would given Farrell a break on this topic, but his efforts to undermine social incentives will only undermine people's willingness to do many jobs that are necessary for our sustenance. He touches on the possibility of giving men more bargaining power, but he doesn't spend nearly enough time expanding the idea: that is a critical failure, as its a point on which most of the book hinges, especially considering the lack of focus on public policy.
Overall it's a good read, with lots of useful data/ rhetoric for those interested in making a case for men's rights.
There are two distortions in the male narrative that challenge us, the distant or absent dad in contemporary societies and the anachronistic sacrificial disposability of men in the gender meta-narrative. Both need be questioned and countered. Farrell and Gray do exactly that.
From the fathering perspective, the demands of work life and familial support all but eliminate meaningful presence in parenting for many men, while divorce, on the increase as women find self-sufficiency, may exclude them entirely.
When it comes to real combat, men don’t count, except for a few heroes, living or dead, who sanctify the sacrificial offerings of the rest. Daily news reports from war zones count women and children dead and mutilated, leaving men to lie among the numberless casualties or be identified the bad guys who killed them. In popular media the killing of men is part of everyday entertainment and causes little concern. “The traditional male hero is about self-sacrifice, not self-actualization.” The battlefield and the workplace often function alike in this respect.
Though the women’s movement is rightfully empowering women to resist abuse and find rewarding and satisfying roles in life, there is little effort to allow men to follow “the glint in their eye”, to evade or redefine the stock, stereotypical roles of protector and provider. It is time for men to say their own, “Me too.” One hopes that the coming generation, now seemingly destined as micro-entrepreneurs, will have greater freedom to do so, but a new outcome does not depend solely on messing with the constraints of capitalism and commodification, but also on redefining the traditional male sense of purpose and adopting a life style that flows from it and supports it.
The book is replete with parental insights and suggested practices that begin to provide for this shift to a broader sense of purpose. This should not echo the veterinary sense of “fixing” men, but is about opening paths of opportunity for richer, more satisfying and, yes, heroic roles in male creativity, relationship formation and parenting. A good part of this is identifying and countering the “social bribes”, the pay-offs which deviate men from discovering their richer purpose offering a false currency of acknowledgement for outdated and too often tragic role performances.
Almost the last third of the book is focused on mental health issues most specifically on ADHD and its causes, effects and alternative remedies. I was hoping for OCD as well but was disappointed in this respect. Much wants more.
The pages are extremely well written, often with memorable lines in bold print. A few examples:
• “Time trumps dime” – valuing a father’s time with family, not just his earnings.
• We are inclined to “Save the whales but not save the males.”
• The shifting economy, “from muscle to microchip.”
The endnotes are abundant and supportive of the content, which will no doubt be contested as it frequently contradicts commonly accepted assumptions about men, their behavior and their highly touted privilege.
In sum, thanks guys!
Something to watch out for, though. Possibly some health studies, like the circumcision study, were not interpreted accurately. I was confounded by the information with that particular study, so my husband and I looked up the study and found that the researchers state the study cannot be considered conclusive. There are many health research studies, especially at the end of the book, so I did come into the final chapters thinking of the authors as having less credibility.
The final two chapters rocked most of my foundational thinking of behavior as well. In the multitude of teaching, leadership, and parenting books that I have read, the focus has been on what structural supports can I provide, how can I change how I say things to be more effective, and how can I create a better learning environment. Considering minerals, vitamins, diet, and homeopathy treatments was a red flag in my mind. Because of this, I spoke with a friend who had a child with ADHD and was surprised to hear from her anecdotal experience that the health advice described in this book really had been as wow as the writers portrayed it to be. I have scoffed at "quick fixes" such as the ones described here, but now I see great potential in replacing brain-impairing and long-term drugs with natural and safe methods.
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The book addresses an array of issues which are often complex and nuanced. This undoubtedly created tensions and friction between women and men both individually and collectively, especially those who have been impacted most over the past 50 years and particularly black men in the USA. It offers a comprehensive review of the literature and whilst I would like to have seen more by way of interventions it may be premature in some ways given the lack of genuine public debate and need for further research. It would be foolish to think that women do not need our continued support but it would be equally foolish for society to continue to deny the seriousness of issues facing men. We now need to invest in the same way in relation to men including good quality research as well as considering the relationship between men and women but this book offers a major contribution to the debate and deserves to be widely read.